Love 101: 4 Phrases Guaranteed to Escalate Fights in Romantic Relationships

According to HNGN, arguments are inevitable in every relationship. However, you can prevent inflicting long term damage by choosing your words carefully. To say the wrong thing at that time can build resentment or lead to another argument. There are many other ways to resolve a fight than to use the harsh words. You should avoid the following terms if you want to sincerely resolve the fight.

"This is your fault"

As reported by Psychology Today, you should not blame the other person as it robs you of your ability to stay focused on the issue at hand. Rather than pointing fingers, express in clear words how you feel.

"You did the same thing before"

Couple Expert Natalie Rinehart told Yahoo that when you resolve a fight, it is best to let it go and never use it as a weapon in the next one. If the issue is brought up again, you must renegotiate it rather than quoting from the last fights.

"I Quit" 

The problem with people and fights is that it is all about winning it. Greg Godek, relationship expert with Bridal Guide, says that fights should be used as a mechanism to blow off pent up emotions. When you fight, it is your own way to fix things and make a relationship stronger. But to say that you quit or giving up on your partner means that you are giving up control of the relationship.

"I hate You"

Redbook Magazine's Amy Johnson, psychologist, says that name calling in a fight is a sign that you have reached point where no rational decision can come out of this situation. In this case, it is better to take a deep breath, calm down and take a moment alone rather than confronting your partner.